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Book Comments: Submissive Confessions

Submissive Confessions By: C.K. George, A Sociological Review

This is a little bit different from what I usually write, but my dear friend was kind enough to offer me a Kindle version of her book and I offered to review it in response to the privilege of reading it for free.

A little bit of background and explanation. The author began the journey of writing this book when we were both still writing over at MySpace. I did not read those articles then and in a way, I’m glad. I got a completely unexpected look at the writing, the story and how I felt about the issues being presented.

Of course, I’ll have to be true to myself and in doing so this review will be from a sociological perspective, which for me, is fantastic. I can do something for Mrs. George and do something to stretch my brain at the same time. This will not be a critic of the literary value of this book, not in the traditional sense, but will be an examination of the sociological-specifically feminist-theoretical value of this book, and I think that value is high.

Submissive Confessions is the story of a young woman tricked into a lifestyle of sexual slavery, prostitution, drug addiction and self-loathing. Through her own strength of will, she escapes the man who has become her owner but, of course, it wouldn’t be a good story if that was all there was. Without divulging too much of the story-line, I’ll say this: This book is not for the easily offended.

I think that’s fantastic. What’s more fantastic is that woman can comfortably write very explicit, very violent fiction that in the end, promotes a whole topic of female empowerment. Writing sexually explicit content, with scenes that are at once exciting and stomach turning is a challenge when you are female.

When reading this book, I was considering the work of Bell Hooks and her commentary on the normalization of violent sex and how that normalizes female subjugation. I agree with hooks (failure to capitalize is intentional) on many, many issues, but this one falls flat for me. I think the normalization of violence, period, is bad and it certainly isn’t good for women, I just think hooks finds legitimate what passes for anything related to BDSM as being normalized. It’s not legit BDSM, so we’re just normalizing violence against women, we aren’t normalizing alternate sexual lifestyle.

Added to this, now, as Submissive Confessions exhibits quite beautifully, women are writing about issues of violence against women on their own. I’ll feel comfortable saying that George is about as far from buying into patriarchy as any woman I know.

Bringing me to my point:

I think I just love the post-modern twist that allows a woman to write sexually on violence against women. It’s perfect.

This book is entertaining and important, in my opinion, far beyond just being the goal reached by my friend in publishing a book. It sparked conversations between me and Jim and between me and my mentor.

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Written by thelittlepecan

April 2, 2011 at 12:55 am

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  1. okay, I’m having a non intelligent day, can you explain what you mean by these two sentences, “I think the normalization of violence, period, is bad and it certainly isn’t good for women, I just think hooks finds legitimate what passes for anything related to BDSM as being normalized. It’s not legit BDSM, so we’re just normalizing violence against women, we aren’t normalizing alternate sexual lifestyle.” LOL for some reason I can’t read or make logical conclusions today . . .

    I also am putting that book on my reading list ASAP 🙂


    April 4, 2011 at 2:23 pm

    • I think you’ll like it for the same reasons I do, Zee.

      Okay, so hooks thinks we have normalized S&M through media. Her examples include Leaving Las Vegas and 9 1/2 Weeks, both movies that exhibit non-consensual control of one partner over the other.

      This is not legitimate BDSM behavior. What may (and I’m still on the fence with this) have been normalized is a Hollywood version of BDSM which is just violence against women (or partner violence) regurgitated as hip or cool.

      Legitimate BDSM relationships involve a whole lot more than just beating the hell out of someone or raping them. At its core it’s about trust and saying that a trusting BDSM paradigm has been normalized is laughable at best and wholly naive at worst.

      Is that better?


      April 4, 2011 at 2:33 pm

      • yes got it. and I wholeheartedly agree with you. as usual 🙂

        the media (and i guess my personal background) had left a bad taste in my mouth as far as BDSM goes until very very recently. I have learned a lot more about it through friends and careful research. Now I have a wholeeeeee different viewpoint.


        April 5, 2011 at 12:03 am

        • So, I’ve got some books if you’re interested?


          April 5, 2011 at 8:13 am

          • absolutely! I have a long list of books to go through but I can always add more 😉


            April 6, 2011 at 1:50 pm

  2. It’s good to have you back.

    I’d comment on the content, but there’s not much in the way of feedback on this particular post. I mean, I’d like a sex slave, but I get the impression that’s not where anyone was going with this.

    BTW, why don’t you use CommentLuv? I tried to, but the plug-in that’s required to use it on Blogger makes the comment form all busy and obnoxious. I’m not chastising you, just curious.

    Adam Jones

    April 3, 2011 at 3:41 pm

    • You know what? I just this minute realized that Single Dad Laughing uses that same plug-in with out all the busy crap in there, so there must be a way to disable it. I need to get to work on that… brb…

      Adam Jones

      April 3, 2011 at 3:46 pm

      • You know what? No. It was the fact that I was still logged in to the comments that made it not look so busy and bulky. When I logged out it was the same crap. What do you think? Is the comment field on Single Dad Laughing too busy, or do you think it’s fine? How do you think it would work on my site?

        Adam Jones

        April 3, 2011 at 3:57 pm

        • I will check it out and come back. Your commenter won’t log me in with my wordpress ID. It’s annoying. 😦

          Also, thanks!


          April 3, 2011 at 11:17 pm

  3. I wanted you to know that I read this. 3 times.

    I love the word fantastic.

    I love that you really READ it.

    Thanks. A lot.


    April 2, 2011 at 1:31 am

    • Would you expect anything less, Love?

      I’m happy to help however I can 😀


      April 2, 2011 at 1:47 am

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